This blog post is similar to my ‘How I Stopped Fearing Change’ post from two weeks ago in the sense that it’s less structured and more me talking to you about spending time with family. Now I know what you might be thinking. Do I really need to make an entire blog post about this? Isn’t it something that everyone should know? I guess you’re right if you are asking those questions, but this is my experience and maybe someone out there feels the same way. Even if you can’t relate, I think this blog post is worth reading because it will probably remind you to call your dear ones and tell them you love them. That’s always nice, isn’t it?
Before I go on, I want to say that not everybody feels close enough to their family just as not everybody feels comfortable hanging out with their friend’s friends. It all depends on circumstances and that’s alright! A family is what you make of it. Family can be blood-related or a group of really close friends, a best friend you love like a sibling or even a precious pet.
I think a lot of people in today’s society, especially younger people, feel a disconnect from other human beings which I think is partly because of technology and partly because we forget to make an effort. Spending time with family, even in small amounts can be as fun and fulfilling as it can be annoying (but that’s the fun of family, isn’t it?) People are accustomed to their personal bubbles, views are harder to express because you don’t want to hurt anybody and sometimes there’s just not enough time to sit down and watch a movie with your family. My mother and I used to go out for coffee every Wednesday because that was the day she had off from work and it was always such a refreshing experience.
I got to know my mother as a person rather than as a parent, because those two are not mutually exclusive, and it helped me understand her better. Conversations with her allowed me to learn about things only she could teach me and I believe she felt the same way. So one of the reasons why spending time with family is because there’s always something you can learn from family, and family is more likely not going to judge you.
Another reason why I think spending time with family is important and we should make more time to spend time with our families is to create memories. Of course, you can make memories with anyone in the world and in any kind of situation, no matter how simple but the bond one has with someone they consider family is special and one day the people we consider family won’t be with us anymore. Morbid, I know, but as uncomfortable we are thinking that our loved ones will die one day I think it’s worth remembering from time to time that we are all mere mortals and when our family is no more, our memories of them will keep them alive.
Lastly, some great ideas for ways to spend time with family are movie nights, picnics, playing card/board games, helping them make dinner, having dinner together or even just being around them while they do stuff. More often than not, my mum and I just sit by each other as she’s playing some game on her phone and I’m reading or scrolling through Instagram. Whenever I find something interesting I just tap her on the shoulder, she looks over, we laugh or discuss whatever I’m showing her and that’s good enough for me, even if we’re just sitting side by side, doing nothing.
I guess the moral of this blog post is to spend more time with your family because the time we have on this earth is precious and because it does wonders for our worldviews, our self-esteem and the way we carry ourselves in general.
Here it is, my little ramble as to why we should all be a bit more closer to our loved ones. If there’s one thing I wish you’d take from this is to just call someone you love and ask them to hang out. I’m sure it will do you and them a whole lot of good. Thanks a lot for reading and make sure to check out my last blog post which is my three favourite vegan recipes. Have a lovely day!